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The Windsor Knot Takes Washington
On Tuesday, as news piled up about the Trump administration’s use of a Signal group chat to discuss military strikes, Kash Patel, the F.B.I. director, found himself facing the Senate Committee on Intelligence. He looked like a prep schooler sitting in detention.
His striped tie was yanked off center, and the top button of his dress shirt was conspicuously unfastened, as if too constricting for his neck.
But by the standards of President Trump’s cabinet, there was nothing off about Mr. Patel’s Dorito-shaped tie. After all, the wide Windsor knot, a symmetrical loop about the size of a Labrador’s paw, has become the standard in the administration.
Defense Secretary Pete Hegseth, the central character in the group chat debacle, favors plump knots that lack a dimple, giving them the look of a tie drawn by a child. Transportation Secretary Sean Duffy, Secretary of State Marco Rubio and the E.P.A. administrator Lee Zeldin similarly favor knots scaled somewhere between meatballs and dinner rolls.
For Mr. Trump’s congressional address in early March, when Elon Musk, the DOGE leader, finally traded his graphic T-shirts for a suit, his satiny blue tie was looped into a flat, broadsided knot. He may not officially be in Mr. Trump’s cabinet, but on that evening he knew the dress code.
The style transcends the West Wing. In their official portraits, Senators Jim Justice of West Virginia, Bernie Moreno of Ohio and Markwayne Mullin of Oklahoma demonstrate that they’re devotees of a fanned out V-shaped tie. The look is less common across the aisle, but some Democrats are Windsor sticklers, predating this administration. In fact, Senators Mark Kelly of Arizona and Chris Coons of Delaware flaunt two of the fattest, monkey-fisted knots on the Hill.
“It’s the new power look,” said G. Bruce Boyer, a former fashion editor of Town & Country magazine, said.
The 1999 book “The 85 Ways to Tie a Tie” illustrates many of the more esoteric methods for roping silk around one’s neck, but we really use only a handful of the knots today. The Windsor, and its brawnier brother, the double Windsor, are on the all-business end of that spectrum, according to Michelle Kohanzo, the president of the Tie Bar in Chicago. (The Windsor knot is named for the Duke of Windsor, though he didn’t actually employ the knot; he just wore thicker ties.)
“Historically, you would wear it to really formal or important events,” Ms. Kohanzo said. But today, as even ex-presidents forgo ties in public, most men wear a tie only for formal events or to workplaces clinging to a dated level of decorum. The Windsor has thus become the default.
It wasn’t always so in the White House.
In 2001, The Los Angeles Times noted that George W. Bush wore “his necktie with a rather trim knot that yields a dimple, a staple of contemporary dress.” Barack Obama and Joseph R. Biden likewise favored reedier, asymmetrical knots that didn’t fill the full cavity of their shirt collars.
There are outliers in Mr. Trump’s cabinet, especially among those who came of age when preppy fashions prevailed. The skinny ties that Robert F. Kennedy Jr., the health and human services secretary, wears are looped in a compact hold, about the size of an immature tulip.
But among the comparatively younger members of Trump’s administration — those roughly 55 and under — there appears to be a shared thinking that broad knots convey authority.
“There’s a brashness to it that kind of says, ‘We’re taking over and what are you going to do about it?’” Mr. Boyer said. He even ventured that there is something “Freudian” going on with these tie knots. “Mine is bigger than yours,” he offered.
As someone old enough to recall that John F. Kennedy’s cabinet caused a commotion by wearing tweed sport coats, Mr. Boyer believes that the only tie technique anyone really needs is the unboastful four-in-hand loop.
Mr. Trump himself may not wear the widest tie in Washington, but he favors large, simple, bright clothes that recall the 1980s.
“This kind of ’80s, ’90s power dressing is coming back,” Ms. Kohanzo said. If men are wearing ties at all, they’re embracing them at Gordon Gekko scale.
The Tie Bar’s best seller is a three-inch “moderately fat tie,” Ms. Kohanzo said, and increasingly the company is selling even larger ties, as well as shirts with conspicuous collars.
Business leaders like Jeff Bezos and Sundar Pichai wore Windsor knots when they attended Mr. Trump’s inauguration in January. Mr. Bezos rarely wears a tie in public, but when he does, he tends to favor the Windsor. On NBC, sports commentators like Tim Howard are employing this knot. And Jamie Dimon’s tie loop looks not that dissimilar to those worn in the White House.
“There’s no subtlety to it,” Mr. Boyer said. “Everything is just a little oversize, glossy, showy, shiny.”
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The Family Branding of Sean Duffy’s Road Trip Reality Show
That spot did not go over well with many fliers, who voiced their disagreement on social media (it’s unclear that getting gussied up would solve the upset caused by delayed flights, increasingly tiny seats and other flying indignities). But it was merely a warm-up for the longer show, which has its debut next month on YouTube. This one features Duffy in a whole variety of dad outfits straight from the “Father Knows Best” closet of the American mind, with his family as supporting characters, down to their matching PJs.
There he is in the Oval Office, introducing his kids (and the show’s concept) to President Trump as white-collar dad in a Trumpian outfit of blue suit, white shirt and red-and-blue tie. There he is in snowy Montana, leading his gang on snowmobiles in coordinated snowsuits. In Philadelphia, he’s in a polo shirt and jeans, introducing his children to a role-playing Benjamin Franklin. He hangs out in a plaid shirt with Kid Rock, a scene that also features Duffy’s wife, Rachel Campos-Duffy, a Fox anchor, in an American flag sweater and matching American flag cowboy boots. (The two met on the reality show “Road Rules: All Stars.”) He wears a lot of shackets. And that’s just in the show’s four-minute promo.
In other words, this does not seem to be in the mode of the storied road trips of American pop-culture mythology, be they the grungy road trip of Peter Fonda and Jack Nicholson in “Easy Rider” or the existential one of Chloé Zhao’s Oscar winner “Nomadland.” It does not even seem to be modeled on the gaffe-filled comic road trip of the Griswold clan in “National Lampoon’s Vacation.”
It’s more like “Road Trip: The Suburban Nostalgia Version.” (See the cars, which include throwback station wagons redolent of “Leave It to Beaver” and a big, black Toyota SUV with Duffy, of course, in the driver’s seat.) It was conceived, presumably, to evoke the values — “wholesome,” “patriotic,” “joyful” — enumerated by Duffy in his post on X and meant to define the show and, by association, himself.
As such, it effectively brands him as the Everydad of the administration, complete with ur-weekend wardrobe. And when it finally airs next month, it may turn out to be less about actual reality (reality TV rarely is) than about heavily messaged reality. In other words: marketing for history.
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‘Harry Potter’ soars under the Cosm spell with fantastical, theme-park-like effects
A pivotal moment early in “Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone” arrives when Harry’s suburban house is swarmed and flooded with letters of acceptance for the Hogwarts School of Witchcraft and Wizardry. Harry’s aunt and uncle have been preventing such dispatches from reaching the young wizard-to-be, but the boarding school’s messenger owls are having none of it.
Letters flood in from the fireplace, windows and nearly seem to cause the house to burst. And while watching the film recently at Inglewood’s Cosm, home to an all-encompassing high-definition spherical screen, I half expected a letter to fall upon my lap. Cosm specializes in sports, but has released three collaborations with Warner Bros. for what it deems “experiential film.” A framed screen displaying the original 2001 work from director Chris Columbus is untouched, but surrounding it are newly added digital animations designed to envelop guests.
And in this early “Sorcerer’s Stone” scene, letters were a-flying any which way I looked. Up, down, left and right — mail missives were rocketing toward the center screen. As the world closed in on Daniel Radcliffe’s Potter and family, it did so, too, at Cosm. I’ve seen Cosm’s take on “The Matrix” and “Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory,” so I knew a letter wouldn’t come zapping my way, but one could be forgiven for protecting their cocktail — themed, of course — from being knocked over.
The famed “sorting hat” scene at Cosm’s interpretation of “Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone.”
(Stefan Silvers / Cosm)
Such is the power of Cosm’s curved screen, which brings a sense of dimension, and even at times movement, to the film. Think of Cosm, perhaps, as a mini version of Las Vegas’ Sphere, but smaller doesn’t mean any less sweeping. No, “Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone” in Cosm’s hands is often quite grand, as the first glimpse of Hogwarts Castle inspired cheers from the opening night audience, its cliffside towers, a romanticized spin on medieval architecture, towering above us in such a way that we will crane our necks. Only in Universal’s theme parks does the palace seem more real and welcoming.
“Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone” arrives at Cosm during what is a big year for the franchise. It’s the 25th anniversary, of course, of the first film in the series, and later this year on Christmas Day a new television series based on author J.K. Rowling’s popular book series is set to premiere on HBO Max. This summer, Harry Potter: A Hogwarts Express Adventure will open at the Southern California Railway Museum for guests to experience the Wizarding World rite of passage aboard a real moving train in the Inland Empire.
All of this activity is happening as Rowling has become the center of heated debate for her controversial views on trans women. None of it, however, has seemed to curtail fan interest in the series. The 2023 video game “Hogwarts Legacy” became a massive hit despite calls for a boycott, and Universal Studios last year opened in Florida a brand new theme park land based upon the franchise at its Epic Universe park, with its centerpiece ride, Harry Potter and the Battle at the Ministry, often commanding some of the longest waits at the park.
At the film’s early May premiere at Cosm, Rowling was mentioned little, and wasn’t among the massive list of names being thanked by studio and Cosm execs. “Harry Potter” in 2026 is perhaps best viewed as a franchise that has outgrown its creator to take on a life of its own, and Cosm’s approach is that of a love letter to its many fans, recognizing that this is a magical, enchanting world that generations have long wished to find themselves immersed in.
A climatic scene in “Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone” is outfitted with additional effects at Cosm.
(Stefan Silvers / Cosm)
To that end, I’d rank “Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone” as the most successful of Cosm’s three cinematic interpretations. Certainly the subject matter plays a role, and while Cosm has been successful in matching the high-energy of “The Matrix” or the trippiness of “Willy Wonka,” here Cosm and its partners — experiential firm Little Cinema and effects house MakeMake — can simply luxuriate in atmosphere. The train to Hogwarts, for instance, is especially well done, seemingly stretched to infinity. The famed “sorting hat” scene, too, as Cosm’s wizards contrast the internal anxiety of being assigned a role with the external one of doing so in front of an audience, bringing to exaggerated life the cavernous Hogwarts assembly hall.
‘Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone’
Cosm works best when it’s able to use its venue to create the illusion of no longer being a spectator, when the space itself starts to feel like a living theater. Feel this, for instance, when Harry and pals traverse the moving staircase. The frame of the screen may move, creating a slight sense of disorientation as the stairs themselves shift. The portraits on the wall, whose characters occasionally come alive, start to envelop us. Cosm used some restraint here, keeping us guessing as to which framed pictures may seek to speak or nod our way.
If there’s any qualm in Cosm’s work it’s that at times there could be a tinge more self-control in order to let the film do its work. Stepping into the hidden magic nook of London’s Diagon Alley is a showcase moment in Columbus’ film, and at times it is in Cosm’s interpretation as well. Out on the street, the shops circle around us, further conveying the cramped nature of the neighborhood. It feels, more than ever, like a real-life space. Inside an intimate pub, however, filling out the scene with empty tables could distract from the hurried, nervous nature of the filmmaker’s original intent.
But we live in an immersive age. Art, increasingly, is maximized to encompass us, and Cosm understands this moment well. Once again, the venue has made the argument that cinema can feel like communal, live entertainment.
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As a Sober Person, How Should I Serve Alcohol to Friends at Dinner Parties?
I have been sober for one year after many decades of heavy drinking. By now, I am somewhat comfortable being around others when they drink. I also enjoy entertaining friends in my apartment, but I no longer maintain a well-stocked bar, nor do I wish to. So, what should I do about dinner parties? I want to be a gracious host, but I don’t want to offer a full range of alcoholic beverages to my guests. Should I ask them in advance what they want to drink and stock it? (That seems a bit intense.) Should I buy a bottle each of red and white wine and hope that suffices? (That seems stingy.) Or should I tell my guests that dinner is a “bring your own bottle” occasion? (That seems ungenerous.) Help!
SOBER
First, let me commend you on your sobriety. Making meaningful and positive change after decades of habitual behavior is a big achievement. Well done! So, making note of your phrase (you write that you are “somewhat comfortable” being around drinking), and keeping the relative stakes in mind — protecting your sobriety versus giving a dinner party — I suggest that you hold off serving booze for now. Your sobriety is still relatively new, and it is more important to safeguard it than it is to serve alcohol to friends.
You don’t mention whether you attend a support group for people in recovery. But dropping into a meeting to speak with others who have lived through experiences similar to yours would probably be helpful. They can’t make this decision for you, but hearing their suggestions may help you make a better decision for yourself. I have watched friends in recovery struggle with alcohol that is left over at the end of the evening — as well as with the temptation to join guests in drinking during dinner.
I also suggest that you rethink what makes a good host. For many decades, that probably entailed serving alcohol to your guests. But really, the act of welcoming friends into your home for a meal — and perhaps a nonalcoholic beer or cocktail — is more than enough. No one needs to drink at every meal, and your friends don’t need you to serve them alcohol to feel valued by you.
One Scheduling Conflict and Knocked Off the Altar
My best friend of 25 years removed me from her bridal party because I cannot attend the rehearsal dinner the evening before the wedding. I have an important hearing in court on Friday afternoon that cannot be moved in the absence of a true emergency. It will prevent me from making it to the rehearsal dinner. What hurts me most is that there was no conversation or attempt to problem solve. My friend simply informed me that because I would miss the dinner, I was no longer a bridesmaid. I was shocked! Should I let this go? It’s her wedding. Should I even go to the wedding? I feel disrespected.
EX-BRIDESMAID
I agree that your friend’s decision seems harsh, and I certainly understand your hurt feelings. But many of us — myself included — are sometimes unable to meet moments of stress with grace and reason. This seems to be the case with your friend, who is overreacting to a situation beyond your control.
Still, I hope you know that you have done nothing wrong here and that your friend is probably hurting herself more than anyone else by removing her best friend of 25 years from her wedding party. Try to let this go — for now. Go to the wedding and celebrate your friend. Life is long: You will have plenty of time to circle back to her to discuss her decision later, when she is better able to be reasonable.
The Inalienable Right Not to Smile
I have a toddler son. He is a happy boy, but he has a distinctly serious facial expression when he is in new settings or around new people. Strangers often feel the need to approach me to comment on it: “Why so serious?” or “That’s quite a face!” I’ve let it go up to now, but I don’t want these comments to affect my son’s idea of himself. Is there a cute response that might encourage people to back off?
MOM
Unless you believe that making a snappy comment to one person will somehow reduce the likelihood of another person commenting — which I don’t — I would focus on what your son hears. Say: “He’s an amazing boy! Playful when he’s comfortable and thoughtful when he’s encountering something new. Thanks for noticing!” Then move along. These people probably don’t mean to upset you, and there’s little upside for you or your son in critiquing their comments.
Must a Page-Turner Have Pages?
If you listen to an audiobook, can you say that you read the book? Or should you be more accurate and say that you listened to it?
READER
For traditionalists, reading is a purely visual activity — not an auditory one. And in the early days of Books on Tape, I confess that I thought of listening to books as cheating. But recent studies show that listeners engage with written material just as rigorously as those who read it on the page, and their comprehension is just as high. So, I don’t believe the distinction matters. Do you?
For help with your awkward situation, send a question to SocialQ@nytimes.com, Philip Galanes on Facebook or @SocialQPhilip on X.
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