Desperately Seeking Surrogates

He began the company so others may have extra transparency concerning the surrogacy course of.

Mr. Amir and his husband, Mike Gowen, have used surrogates twice and are actually starting their third course of with one.

They paid about $200,000 whole for his or her first surrogacy in 2017: $35,000 for egg donor screening charges, an egg donation, egg donor insurance coverage, the egg donor company price, journey bills and authorized charges; $35,000 for I.V.F., which included the egg retrieval, creating the embryos and transferring the embryo; and greater than $120,000 for the surrogacy course of, which included a $35,000 compensation for the surrogate, plus the surrogate company price, surrogate insurance coverage, authorized charges, screening, journey bills and different miscellaneous charges. The second time, in September 2020, they paid $150,000, utilizing a special company.

Mr. Amir, who lives in New Haven, Conn., stated his relationship along with his surrogates has at all times been essential to him. “We FaceTime quite a bit and talked on the cellphone as a lot as we may,” he stated. “However due to distance” — the primary surrogate lived in Ohio; the second in Tennessee — “and Covid on the second journey, we solely met for the primary time in particular person when our infants have been born.”

And since surrogacy just isn’t allowed for same-sex {couples} in lots of international international locations that in any other case permit it, serving to a homosexual couple is a calling for some.

Shea Eschman, a photographer who lives in Yukon, Okla., is due July 4 with twins for a homosexual couple who stay in Italy. Ms. Eschman, who has a 4-year-old daughter, had hung out on social media speaking to others about potential surrogacy when she was having hassle conceiving her daughter. Now, she stated, she needs to assist individuals who aren’t capable of have children on their very own.

“I’m excited to present them their dream household,” Ms. Eschman stated. “They needed twins, and it’s precisely what they’re getting.”