Earlier than she was shot within the abdomen at Saugus Excessive College, Mia Tretta volunteered at a Los Angeles meals financial institution yearly round Thanksgiving.
On Nov. 14, 2019, within the minutes earlier than a bullet from a ghost gun hit her, Mia was on the telephone along with her mother, Tiffany Shepis-Tretta. They had been attempting to determine a day Mia might skip faculty to pack packing containers of meals with out lacking a take a look at. She was strolling into class after being dropped off by her grandmother on the Santa Clarita campus.
So carefree, Tiffany thinks now, remembering her daughter as a freshman. So onerous to suppose how small the issues had been.
Seconds after Mia hung up, a fellow scholar pulled a .45 caliber semiautomatic — produced from a package offered by a still-operating web enterprise in Chula Vista — and fired into the quad.
He killed two college students, together with Mia’s greatest buddy Dominic Blackwell, and wounded three earlier than taking his personal life. Damage and dazed, Mia ran right into a classroom.
Most of us barely keep in mind the Saugus Excessive capturing, headline information when it occurred three years in the past. And why would we? There have been many extra faculty shootings since, and lots of of acts of gun violence in California and throughout the nation this 12 months alone. The Gun Violence Archive places the quantity at greater than 600 to this point in 2022 — together with 21 lifeless in Uvalde, Texas, and 10 gunned down in a grocery retailer in Buffalo, N.Y.
Colorado Springs, Colo., was the brand new headline, 5 lifeless Saturday night time in an LGBTQ membership. Then Tuesday night time introduced one other horror. Seven folks lifeless in a Virginia Walmart, together with the gunman, who used his last shot on himself.
Are you able to even title any of the others? Do you keep in mind in April when a gunman wounded 10 in a New York subway automotive? Or Could when an indignant man killed one and wounded 4 on the Irvine Taiwanese Presbyterian Church in Laguna Woods?
Or June in Oklahoma when yet one more armed man killed 5 at a medical heart and left extra with “non-life threatening accidents,” which is absolutely only a chilly and careless approach of claiming welcome to a lifetime of trauma, each for the victims and those that love them.
“You’ll be able to’t wait to care till it occurs to you,” Mia advised me Tuesday. And if telling her story, driving that time dwelling, will get the eye of only one particular person, it’s well worth the salt-in-the-wound ache of digging up the main points, she mentioned.
“On the fee that gun violence is occurring now, everybody goes to know any person, all people goes to have gun violence contact them,” she mentioned. “The entire world is hurting. All of those shootings occurring over and again and again is tough for me. However its additionally so extremely onerous for our complete nation.”
She’s a senior now, nonetheless at Saugus Excessive, however spends a lot of her time as a gun-sense advocate with organizations together with College students Demand Motion. These previous few weeks, with the shootings in Colorado and Virginia, the strain of a vacation meant to underscore gratefulness and the three-year anniversary of the Saugus capturing, have been onerous — for Mia’s complete household.
“At the start within the grand scheme of something like this, we’re fortunate as a result of she’s right here. She’s with us,” Tiffany mentioned. “These are the issues you concentrate on when the vacations come. I take into consideration [Dominic’s] household.”
Mia worries folks don’t even keep in mind him — the 14-year-old child with curly hair who “wasn’t afraid of something,” Tiffany mentioned. He and Mia had an 8-minute lengthy secret handshake they’d do each time they met, Mia mentioned.
He wore a SpongeBob T-shirt virtually on daily basis. The primary time he met Tiffany in a division retailer, he “shook my hand very firmly and mentioned, ‘I simply need you to know I’m Mia’s boyfriend,’ then ran off laughing,” Tiffany mentioned.
Mia liked him and he’s gone, killed as they walked collectively, simply one other day till it wasn’t.
However as a lot as we mourn the lifeless, the dwelling matter too. Gun violence is a horrible, tragic second for many who die. It’s a lifetime of ache for many who stay.
Tiffany remembers the morning Mia was shot, probably not being concerned at the same time as she heard one thing was occurring at the highschool. She determined to drive over and test. On the way in which, she acquired a textual content from a quantity she didn’t acknowledge.
“Hello mother, I don’t know should you’ve heard, however there was a capturing. Inform Max to chew together with his mouth closed,” it learn. Max is Mia’s little brother, in first grade when the capturing occurred and an open-mouth eater on the dinner desk, a lot to his massive sister’s dismay.
Tiffany realized one thing was improper and known as the quantity. A lot of what occurred is a blur, however she remembers asking the one who answered if every part was OK, and being advised Mia had been shot. “Do you need to discuss to her?” they requested.
Mia sounded “as regular as may be,” Tiffany mentioned. “Thank God for shock and adrenaline. I really feel like, had she sounded in ache, I might have crumbled.”
By some means Tiffany known as her husband, Sean, and so they arrived on the faculty at virtually the identical time, with Mia being wheeled out on a gurney. There was a helicopter journey to the trauma heart, and although the bullet missed a significant artery by millimeters, “we knew fairly shortly that she was going to be OK,” she mentioned.
“However when you must inform a baby that their greatest buddy was killed, you immediately see the innocence drain from them,” she mentioned.
Mia nonetheless has bodily issues from being shot — she’ll have one other process in coming months. However the emotional restoration is tougher.
“For a very long time, I used to be very, very numb,” Mia mentioned. “Trauma is a curler coaster. It doesn’t finish and it’s not static.”
Tiffany felt the shock too and nonetheless does.
“You attempt to stay slightly bit tougher, you attempt to love extra, you attempt to not maintain grudges on belongings you would have prior to now,” she mentioned. “As dad and mom you bought to maintain going. You bought to choose up and maintain it collectively. You’ll crumble in the future when they’re married and have their very own youngsters. It’s robust.”
One of many hardest components is how political shootings have turn into. In case your baby is in a automotive accident, Tiffany factors out, the one response is sympathy and kindness.
“You say my baby was shot at a faculty capturing, all people has an opinion on that,” Tiffany mentioned. “It’s the one factor that’s polarized, and it’s actually unfair. You’re speaking about youngsters’ lives and children’ security.”
Mia has a service canine now, a golden retriever named Randy, who goes to high school along with her and may wake her up from nightmares. She has PTSD. Popping balloons startle her, and Max is aware of higher than to run up and scare her, as he appreciated to do earlier than the capturing.
However Mia additionally found one thing about her ache.
“I noticed actually early on that I had the identical consolation sitting in mattress crying as I did going out and attempting to alter one thing,” she mentioned.
Mia travels the nation talking on gun rights. Not way back, she was at the White House for an occasion with President Biden. And he or she voted for the primary time a couple of weeks in the past — all candidates she trusts to share her values. Just lately, after the varsity capturing in Uvalde, she held a walkout at Saugus Excessive. Within the conservative enclave of Santa Clarita, it wasn’t properly acquired.
“Folks had been holding up Trump flags and throwing issues at us,” she mentioned. “It’s a whitewashing, sort of attempting to fake this didn’t occur in ‘Awesometown,’” as one native neighborhood dubbed itself.
It’s Mia’s perseverance that offers me hope.
I’m pretty sure the so-called adults aren’t fixing America’s gun drawback anytime quickly. Even in California, with a few of the strictest gun legal guidelines within the nation, we’re confronted with the stone wall of those that genuinely consider they may sometime want their weapons to overthrow our authorities, and any try and curb gun rights dangers that mangled notion of patriotism.
However the youngsters have an opportunity.
“Era Z goes to eliminate them,” Tiffany mentioned, talking of the politicians who consider their self-serving worship of the 2nd Modification is extra necessary than our kids.
“I see it not simply with my daughter,” she mentioned. “I see it when she goes and meets with different teams of younger [activists]. They notice the numerous drawback we’ve got with weapons on this county. I’ve loads of hope for them, and it’s unlucky that we’ve needed to burn all of it down for them to construct it again up.”
Mia doesn’t need her complete life to be about weapons. She’s 18 years previous and making use of to varsity. She goals of Stanford, and so they’d be fortunate to have her. And he or she and her mother are again to volunteering at Thanksgiving, this 12 months making meals for these dwelling in motels.
However Mia is on this struggle to win it, identical to so lots of her friends who “take no s—,” as Tiffany places it.
“These are change makers,” Mia says of different younger survivors she’s met.
“They’re combating for the very same factor,” she mentioned, regardless of in the event that they deal with local weather change, reproductive rights or any of the opposite issues that appear so insurmountable and contentions — to “be secure and be completely happy and be liked and never be scared.”
“It’s not an excessive amount of to ask,” she mentioned.
No, Mia, it’s not. I want we might win this struggle for you, go away you with a greater world. Or at the very least one the place massacres don’t come and go from our consciousness like thieves, stealing a little bit of our means to really feel every time.
However I’m grateful you’re not ready for us to catch up. And I’m grateful that for all you’ve misplaced, you haven’t given up on us.
Likely GOP primary voters share who had best Republican debate performance: Poll
Likely Republican voters think Florida Gov. Ron DeSantis had the best performance in the second Republican debate, according to a new poll.
The poll was conducted by 538/Washington Post/Ispos and asked 2,262 likely voters in the Republican primary to grade each candidate’s performance during the debate, which was hosted on Wednesday night by FOX Business in Simi Valley, California.
Prior to the debate, pollsters asked likely GOP primary voters how they thought each candidate would perform. Overall, voters thought Vivek Ramaswamy would finish ahead of the rest, closely followed by DeSantis, former South Carolina Gov. Nikki Haley and Sen. Tim Scott, R-S.C.
When polled following the debate, 33% of respondents thought DeSantis performed the best during the debate, followed by Haley at 18% and Ramaswamy at 15%.
WATCH THE FULL SECOND REPUBLICAN PRIMARY DEBATE
24% of people polled thought former New Jersey Gov. Chris Christie performed the worst and 20% thought the same of former Vice President Mike Pence. 11% of voters thought North Dakota Gov. Doug Burgum performed the worst, and 10% thought the same of Ramaswamy.
However, support among the field was largely unchanged after the debate.
Support for DeSantis increased from 51.0% to 51.9%, Haley’s went from 34.0% to 36.4%, and Scott’s went from 24.7% to 26.5%. In the poll, support for candidates is based on the percentage of polled voters considering voting for each individual.
DESANTIS SUGGESTS ONE-ON-ONE DEBATE WITH TRUMP: ‘YOU OWE IT TO THE VOTERS’
Ramaswamy slightly lost support, going from 27.2% to 28.1% as well as Pence, going from 23.4% to 24.2%.
Support for Former President Donald Trump went from 63.8% to 63.9%.
The poll also asked likely Republican primary voters what issues are most important in determining their primary vote, given the option to select up to 20 issues.
“Getting inflation or increased costs under control” was considered the most important issue to 55% of voters, “Controlling immigration” was considered a priority for 40% of voters, and “Ability to beat Joe Biden” was a priority for 24% of voters.
GOP candidates outlined sweeping anti-trans agenda at presidential debate
Two Republican presidential candidates, former Vice President Mike Pence and businessman Vivek Ramaswamy, vowed at Wednesday night’s debate in Simi Valley to ban gender-affirming care — and not just for trans kids, but also for adults.
None of the other five Republicans onstage criticized Pence and Ramaswamy’s proposals, which would amount to a major federal intervention in American adults’ ability to work with their doctors to decide what medical treatments are appropriate for themselves and their children.
The two candidates’ rhetoric is an indication of how far the Republican Party’s consensus on trans rights has moved in recent years. After the Supreme Court legalized same-sex marriage in 2015, much of the national conversation around LGBTQ+ rights shifted to focus on transgender rights.
In 2016, a debate took shape over the so-called “bathroom bill” in North Carolina, which required transgender people to use public bathrooms that matched the sex assigned to them at birth. The law was eventually repealed after widespread backlash.
But since then, social conservatives have whipped up outrage and concern about gender-affirming care for trans kids. In a 2021 Fox News poll, 62% of Republicans said they saw “overly accommodating” transgender policies in schools as a major problem.
When the same question was posed to voters in April, that number had climbed to 71% of Republicans — even as only 2% of Republicans identified “wokeness/transgender issues” as the most important issue facing the country. Less than 1% of Americans identify as transgender.
In the years since the repeal of the bathroom bill, North Carolina and 21 other states have banned gender-affirming care for kids, according to Human Rights Watch — and some states, such as Oklahoma, Texas and South Carolina, have considered banning it for transgender adults. Many of the laws are entangled in legal battles.
The discussion at Wednesday night’s debate was triggered by a question that moderator and FOX News host Dana Perino posed to Ramaswamy about whether parents should be notified if their kids change their gender identity at school.
“Students … have the ability to change their identity without parental notification,” Perino said, noting that fellow candidate Chris Christie, former governor of New Jersey, had vowed to pass a law “protecting parental rights.”
“Would you do the same?” she asked.
But rather than responding to the question, Ramaswamy took aim at transgender rights more broadly.
“I have to be very clear about this: transgenderism, especially in kids, is a mental health disorder,” he said, adding, “Parents have the right to know.”
“It is not compassionate to affirm a kid’s confusion. That is not compassion; that is cruelty,” Ramaswamy said, sharing an anecdote of two people who regretted getting double mastectomies and a hysterectomy. If he becomes president, he said, he will “ban genital mutilation or chemical castration.”
Although some transgender people opt for gender-affirming medical care, many never use medication or surgery to transition. Studies have shown that few choose to detransition, or reverse the process and go back to the sex they were assigned at birth.
Former Vice President Mike Pence doubled down on Ramaswamy’s proposal.
“We’re going to pass a federal ban on transgender chemical or surgical surgery anywhere in the country,” Pence said. “We’ve got to protect our kids from this radical gender ideology agenda.”
Ramaswamy’s and Pence’s statements indicate they’d go further than former President Trump.
The frontrunner in GOP polls has said he would ban facilities that provide gender-affirming care from receiving federal funding. But since most hospitals and major medical centers depend at least in part on funds from Medicare, Medicaid or federal health and science agencies, Trump’s proposal would likely dramatically reduce access to gender-affirming care nationwide.
An April poll by NBC indicated that 79% of Republicans think the nation has “gone too far” in accepting transgender people, compared with 19% of Democrats and 50% of independent voters. In a similar poll by the Pew Research Center, 66% of Republicans said the country has has gone too far in accepting transgender people, while roughly 6 in 10 Democrats said society hasn’t gone far enough.
“No one should have their very right to exist debated on a national stage,” Ash Orr, National Center for Transgender Equality spokesperson, said in a statement Thursday. “What we saw last night was a group of extremist politicians repeating the same tired rhetoric about transgender people, unsupported by actual facts.”
“The truth is that transgender youth know who they are and deserve to be accepted, loved, and supported,” Orr added. “Research shows that the onslaught of rhetoric against our community is directly harming the physical, mental, and emotional wellbeing of our community.”
Orr said that political leaders should instead focus on other issues facing youth, such as underfunding of education, lack of teacher support and school shootings.
In California, several school districts have said they will notify parents if their child starts identifying differently than the gender they were assigned at birth.
In July, Chino Valley Unified School District in San Bernardino County became the first district in the state to adopt a parental notification policy, followed quickly by Murrieta Valley Unified, Temecula Valley Unified, Rocklin Unified, Anderson Union High School District and Orange Unified.
Last week, Democratic Gov. Gavin Newsom vetoed a bill that would have asked judges in custody hearings to consider a parent’s support for their child’s gender identity.
Video: Biden Says MAGA Movement Rejects Basic Beliefs of Democracy
new video loaded: Biden Says MAGA Movement Rejects Basic Beliefs of Democracy
Biden Says MAGA Movement Rejects Basic Beliefs of Democracy
President Biden delivered a blistering and direct attack on former President Donald J. Trump during a visit to Arizona.
There’s something dangerous happening in America now. There’s an extremist movement that does not share the basic beliefs in our democracy — the MAGA movement. Not every Republican, not even a majority of Republicans adhere to the MAGA extremist ideology. I know because I’ve been able to work with Republicans my whole career. But there’s no question that today’s Republican Party is driven and intimidated by MAGA Republican extremists. Their extreme agenda, if carried out, would fundamentally alter the institutions of American democracy as we know it. My friends, they’re not hiding their attacks. They’re openly promoting them. Attacking the free press as the enemy of the people. Attacking the rule of law as an impediment. Fomenting voter suppression and election subversion. Did you ever think we’d be having debates at your stage of your careers where banning books, banning books and burying history. Extremists in Congress more determined to shut down the government, to burn the place down than to let the people’s business be done.
Recent episodes in U.S. & Politics
Copley man found dead inside Cleveland parking garage
7 Hill Country Oktoberfests to sate your need for German culture
Melanie Lynskey reconnects with her ‘Sweet Home Alabama’ kids on Instagram
She received chemo in two states. Why did it cost so much more in Alaska?
Arizona vs. Washington: Promo Codes, Betting Trends, Record ATS, Home/Road Splits – September 30
Colorado Rockies game no. 116 thread: Zac Gallen vs José Ureña
See it: Tesla crashes into Columbus convention center at 70 mph
Fox News Politics: Georgia the whole day through
Death of missing Oregon girl found in stream ruled homicide
At least 2 dead as tornadoes hit Alabama, damage homes across Southeast
Likely GOP primary voters share who had best Republican debate performance: Poll
Russian power substation hit in latest Ukrainian drone wave attack
Shocking moment five Border Patrol agents CUT through razor wire at Eagle Pass and allow migrants to enter the US – after Texas Governor Abbott re-installed it along Rio Grande
Former Michigan marijuana board head gets almost 5 years in federal prison
German-Italian riff thwarts EU deal on new rules for migration crises
News1 week ago
5 Americans freed from prison in Iran land on U.S. soil
Movie Reviews1 week ago
The Hollywood Reporter Critics Pick the 15 Best Films of the Fall Fests
Technology1 week ago
Google quietly raised ad prices to boost search revenue, says executive
Movie Reviews1 week ago
My Animal (2023) – Movie Review
Politics1 week ago
Illegal border crossings spiking in September as daily encounters continue to climb
News1 week ago
Republican Presidential Candidates on Social Security and Medicare
News1 week ago
Biden warns that Trump and MAGA Republicans are ‘determined to destroy democracy’
Movie Reviews1 week ago
‘Dumb Money’ recalls GameStop squeeze, when regular folk put the screws on Wall Street