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Marie Kondo revealed she’s ‘kind of given up’ on being so tidy. People freaked out

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Marie Kondo speaks at a media occasion in New York on July 11, 2018.

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Marie Kondo, the queen of tidy, says her home is not so tidy anymore.

“I’ve sort of given up on that in a great way for me,” mentioned Kondo, the writer of The Life-Altering Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Artwork of Decluttering and Organizing, a self-help guide that took audiences by storm.

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She’s additionally a mom of three.

“Now I understand what’s essential to me is having fun with spending time with my kids at house,” the Japanese cleansing guide just lately advised listeners, in response to The Washington Publish.

The particular person behind the KonMari technique — decluttering by tossing something that does not “spark pleasure” — not (completely) practices what she preached. Some folks shared their reactions on social media.

“The truth that Marie Kondo, chief of millennials who had been taught (by her) to solely maintain issues that spark pleasure, has given up on tidying up her home now that she has 3 children, is de facto sending me,” wrote one person on Twitter.

Mother and father, particularly, felt seen.

“This was each refreshing and validating to learn,” wrote one Twitter user. “I’ve 3 children and have been making an attempt out the KonMari technique each 3 months but it surely’s simply not possible.”

However for Kondo, who says her cleansing philosophy relies partly within the native Japanese perception Shintoism, conserving a tidy home is simply a part of the observe.

“The final word purpose is to spark pleasure each day and lead a joyful life,” in response to Kondo, who describes this philosophy as kurashi, which she says roughly interprets to “lifestyle.”

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Plus, purging litter is not as a lot a pattern as it’s a necessity for a lot of metropolis dwellers in Japan — and different elements of Asia the place flats are small to start with.

The typical dimension of a house in Tokyo is simply over 700 sq. toes, in response to a 2019 housing and land survey by the Japanese authorities.

However that is roughly the identical as what you may get in Manhattan, the place the common dimension of an condo is 704 sq. toes, in response to housing web site RentCafe.

Kondo, whose organizing abilities landed her two Netflix collection, has confronted backlash earlier than — together with for seeming to color tidiness as one thing that’s innately Japanese and for saying one ought to maintain at most 30 books, the latter of which she mentioned was a false impression.

Kondo writes in her first guide, which was initially revealed in 2010 and launched within the U.S. in 2014, that dramatically reorganizing “causes correspondingly dramatic modifications in way of life and perspective.”

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“The true objective of tidying is to not lower down in your possessions or declutter your house,” Kondo says. However quite, to be taught to make significant selections and discover gratitude in on a regular basis life.

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A Beijing restaurant critic arrives at a crossroads in this absorbing family drama

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Gu (Xin Baiqing) struggles with his own sense of impermanence in The Shadowless Tower.

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The title of The Shadowless Tower refers to an enormous 13th-century Buddhist temple that looms over the Xicheng district of Beijing. It’s called the White Pagoda, and it was designed in such a way that its shadow can be hard to see.

That makes it a poignant metaphor for the movie’s middle-aged protagonist, Gu, who’s struggling with his own sense of impermanence. As he quietly drifts through a life riven by loss and disappointment, he wonders, as time slips away, if he himself will leave a meaningful impression.

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The viewer, however, will not forget him anytime soon. Gu is played by the actor Xin Baiqing, whose movingly understated performance holds you through every step of this leisurely but absorbing drama.

We first meet Gu as he and his family are visiting the grave of his recently deceased mom. It takes a few moments to figure out how everyone’s related. The 6-year-old girl we see is Gu’s daughter, and she’s as happy and upbeat as her name, Smiley, would lead you to believe.

But we soon learn that Smiley lives with Gu’s older sister and brother-in-law, who have effectively adopted her. While Gu is very much a part of their lives, he’s an unreliable father at best, prone to showing up late — and sometimes drunk — for regular visits.

Whatever Gu’s failings as a parent, they seem to faintly echo those of his own father, whom he hasn’t seen since he was a young boy for reasons that are not immediately clear. Now, decades later, his long-absent father has been quietly reaching out to the family, and Gu is considering letting him back in.

You can imagine how this all might play out in a different movie, with stormy flashbacks, anguished recriminations and a tear-jerking happy ending. But the writer-director Zhang Lu is after something subtler and more realistic. He knows how hard it can be, in life, for even two willing parties to connect.

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The movie’s other key relationship proves similarly elusive. Gu, who once dreamed of being a poet, now works as a restaurant critic. One of his colleagues is a mischievous young photographer named Ouyang, played by Huang Yao, who takes pictures of the dishes he writes about.

But while the two have a flirtatious chemistry, their romance never really gets off the ground. That may be because of their age difference, which Ouyang pokes fun at by playfully introducing Gu as her father or her boyfriend, depending on the situation. But it may also have something to do with Gu’s passivity. As another character puts it, “Too much politeness builds a wall between people.”

In its own unassuming way, The Shadowless Tower means to knock down some of those walls. Most of us realize, sooner or later, that we’re more like our parents or other family members than we care to admit. But the movie articulates that truth with a gentleness that can take your breath away, like the eerie moment when Gu realizes how much Smiley resembles the grandfather she’s never met.

And if this is a story of intergenerational conflict, we see some of that tension reflected in Beijing itself. The camera follows Gu around the city, where sleek modern surfaces coexist with ancient traditional buildings — like that White Pagoda, often seen in the background.

There’s another inspired touch that resonates powerfully if you know to look for it. Gu’s father is well played by the filmmaker Tian Zhuangzhuang, who, like many Chinese directors of his generation, experienced government censorship and persecution earlier in his career. His 1993 drama, The Blue Kite, set during the Great Leap Forward and the Cultural Revolution, was banned in mainland China, and Tian himself was restricted from filmmaking for 10 years.

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I don’t think it’s a coincidence that Tian’s character in The Shadowless Tower is seen flying a kite, or that he’s shown to be emerging from exile. There’s sadness in that parallel, but also a sense of hope — a reminder that while none of us can change the past, the future remains beautifully unwritten.

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92NY, a historic cultural center, turns 150 — grappling with today's Israel-Hamas war

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92NY, a historic cultural center, turns 150 — grappling with today's Israel-Hamas war

The 92nd Street Y, New York is celebrating its 150th anniversary. As a Jewish cultural institution, it’s also facing criticism related to the Israel-Hamas war.

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The 92nd Street Y, New York is celebrating its 150th anniversary. As a Jewish cultural institution, it’s also facing criticism related to the Israel-Hamas war.

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Nonprofits often struggle to adhere to their original mission statements, especially as they develop new programs and serve new audiences. For Jewish institutions, the Israel-Hamas war has been an inflection point.

That’s been especially true of The 92nd Street Y, New York, which turns 150 this month.

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92NY was founded by a group of German Jewish New Yorkers as one of the earliest branches of the Young Men’s Hebrew Association, which were modeled on the Young Men’s Christian Associations, better known as the YMCA.

It had a simple goal — help immigrants assimilate, said Seth Pinsky, CEO of 92NY.

“They saw a growing wave of Eastern European Jews and felt that these new immigrants would need a place where they could learn how to become Americans, become educated, gain skills, and adjust to a new life in a new country,” Pinsky said.

Swimming at New York’s Young Men’s Hebrew Association (YMHA) in 1911. The YMHA eventually became The 92nd Street Y, New York, a cultural force that hasn’t lost its community center vibe.

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Over time, The 92nd Street Y, New York became much more: a nondenominational, cultural powerhouse open to all. “Even though it was founded as a Jewish institution, has always been a Jewish institution, it is also an institution that has always served the wider world,” said Pinsky.

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Look through the archives and it seems like anybody who’s anybody in culture, science, politics and the like has appeared at 92NY: writers such as Dylan Thomas and Nobel Peace Prize winner Elie Wiesel, entertainers like Paul Robeson and Carol Burnett, and scientists like Dr. Jane Goodall. Modern dance pioneers Martha Graham and José Limón taught at 92NY before founding their own companies. Alvin Ailey debuted his best known work, Revelations at 92NY in 1960.

Martha Graham was among the modern dance pioneers who taught at 92NY before founding her own company.

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Every day, thousands of people still use The 92nd Street Y, New York as their local community center. They come for its swimming pool, daycare, gym and numerous classes, from tap dancing to jewelry making.

They also come for events and lectures. Recent speakers include actor Emily Blunt and actor/singer Audra McDonald, former U.S. Rep Liz Cheney, and Ambassador Deborah Lipstadt, the U.S. Special Envoy to Combat and Monitor Antisemitism. During the pandemic, 92NY started streaming virtual presentations online, reaching millions of people around the world.

“It’s a category buster and there’s really nothing else like it anywhere,” said Pinsky.

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Pinsky said 92NY was built on Jewish and American values including “debate and a robust exchange of ideas.” From Israeli prime ministers to civil rights activists, for decades it has thrived as a place for diverse programs and points of view.

Ambassador Deborah Lipstadt, U.S. Special Envoy to Monitor and Combat Antisemitism, spoke with Rabbi David Ingber, senior director at 92NY’s Bronfman Center for Jewish Life on Jan. 24, 2024.

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But that identity was shaken after the Hamas-led attacks on Israel on Oct. 7, 2023. Afterward, 92NY postponed an event by one of its divisions, the well-regarded Unterberg Poetry Center.

Pulitzer Prize-winning writer Viet Thanh Nguyen was scheduled to talk at 92NY two weeks after the attacks. But he was also one of hundreds of writers who’d signed an open letter in the London Review of Books condemning Israel’s occupation and calling for a ceasefire. The Israeli government says that a ceasefire could lead to further attacks.

Nguyen’s novels are about surviving war and trauma, but Pinsky said it was not the right time for him to appear at 92NY.

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“It was during the traditional Jewish period of mourning, and it was about a week after the so-called Day of Rage, when Hamas called for the targeting not just of Israelis, but of Jews and Jewish institutions,” Pinsky said. “And so what we said was not that he couldn’t hold those opinions and not that he could never appear on our stage. But maybe that moment wasn’t the right moment.”

The Poetry Center’s director, Bernard Schwartz, refused to postpone and quickly arranged for the event to take place at a local bookstore instead.

Nguyen told the audience he believed he was canceled.

“Art is supposed to keep our minds and hearts open. So the greatest irony of all of this is that what could save us — or one of the things that could save us — art — has been silenced,” Nguyen said.

Writers, including playwright Tony Kushner, signed an open letter angry at 92NY’s decision. Some of those scheduled to speak last fall withdrew. Schwartz and the two other members of the Poetry Center’s staff resigned, effectively suspending the program.

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“It sends a terrible message, because writers have to be able to express themselves,” said James Shapiro, an author and English professor at Columbia University. He’s been actively involved with 92NY for years, including teaching a class on Shakespeare. He said he’s so furious, he doesn’t plan to return.

“I’m a Zionist. I’m a supporter of the Y. I’m a defender of my community,” said Shapiro, “And when a group within that community is effectively making it worse by aligning it with a view that Jews censor writers who don’t line up with their beliefs, it sets a terrible example.”

Shapiro praised the work of the Poetry Center’s small staff and “the brave stand that they took in defense of free speech.”

Pinsky said he’s well aware there are people in the literary world “who are not happy with the decision we made.” He vowed to rebuild the Poetry Center. “We’re ready to do the work and we think our poetry program and literature program is an important one, and it’s one that we want to get back on its feet.”

Cultural institutions need to ‘reconsider everything we do’

92NY is just one of many cultural institutions getting heat for whatever they do — or don’t do — related to the Israel-Hamas war. The decisions they make could affect their funding, audiences and staff morale.

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“The 92nd Street Y, like all Jewish institutions, but I think all institutions with conscience, have to think ‘How do we respond?’ ” said Susannah Heschel, chair of the Jewish Studies Program at Dartmouth College. “I think it means we have to reconsider everything we do. As a professor of Jewish Studies, what do I hope to achieve? And I’m not sure.”

CEO Pinsky said 92NY’s commitment to a “robust exchange of ideas” hasn’t changed. Since Oct. 7, it has featured conversations that have been both critical and supportive of the Israeli government.

Trying to make sense of difficult topics is one of the many reasons people go to 92NY. But they also come for concerts or to take a class or go for a swim. Pinsky said its mission to enrich individuals and create community is needed now “more than any time” in its 150-year history.

“The fabric of society is being pulled apart in so many different ways,” he said. “And bringing people together and making them feel connected is incredibly important. And that’s who we’ve always been and that’s who we continue to be.”

This story was edited for audio and digital platforms by Jennifer Vanasco.

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