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The Mystery of a Subway Victim’s Downward Spiral

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Good morning. It’s Monday. Today we’ll read about the early life and downward spiral of Debrina Kawam, the woman who was burned alive on a train in Brooklyn last month at age 57.

Andy Newman, who covers homelessness and poverty for the Metro desk, and I spent days reporting on the twists and turns of her life in an attempt to understand her life after her death made headlines across the country.

Debrina Kawam’s story was a tale of two lives. In her first act, she was Debbie, the girl who old friends fondly remembered as a spitfire and beloved Little Falls, N.J., sweetheart.

Those who knew her said she had an inner glow that shined through as she cheered on football players in high school, posed against a collage of Led Zeppelin posters and welcomed diners at Perkins Pancake House with a smile.

Accounts of her early life further revealed a jubilant woman who took a bite out of life whenever she could, whether that was through trips to the Caribbean or partying with friends.

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In 2003, she legally changed her first name to Debrina.

Somewhere along the way her life changed, and it took a dark turn in the early 2000s. It still remains unclear what may have happened to trigger her heart-wrenching downfall.

Financial records show that she accumulated about $90,000 in debt, eventually leaving her with a handful of possessions: a Dodge Neon valued at $800, a television, a futon worth $300 and some clothes.

Grappling with alcohol abuse, Kawam racked up dozens of summonses for drinking and disorderly conduct along the Jersey Shore starting in the mid-2010s.

She tried to visit her mother in Toms River, N.J., this spring, only to find out that her mother had sold the home and moved away.

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In the fall of last year, Kawam was homeless. After an outreach team encountered her at Grand Central Terminal, she entered the New York City shelter system and was assigned to a facility in the Bronx. But she never showed up.

On Dec. 22, she had dozed off on a stationary F train at the Coney Island-Stillwell Avenue station when a man calmly walked up to her and set her clothes on fire with a lighter, the authorities said. Sebastian Zapeta-Calil has been charged with murder and arson in the case.

She died from burns and smoke inhalation. It took the medical examiner’s office days to identify her. But since Kawam’s name emerged, her story has become one that is likely to remain in New Yorkers’ memories.


Weather

Today there will be light snow with clouds and a high near 31. Tonight, the sky will remain cloudy as the temperature dips into the low 20s.

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Suspended today for Three Kings Day.


Dear Diary:

My tooth was aching as I got off a packed northbound A train at 175th Street. I joined a river of people flowing at rush hour through the long tunnel that leads to the George Washington Bridge Bus Station.

I was deeply lost in my thoughts when I was overtaken by an immaculately dressed, middle-aged man.

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To my astonishment, he stopped, turned and, blocking my way, looked directly into my eyes with an indignant expression.

“May I help you?” I asked.

“You missed a whole passage,” he said in an angry voice.

“What passage?” I said.

“From the ‘Trout Quintet’,” he said. “By Schubert.”

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“Was I whistling?” I asked. “I frequently do that unconsciously, usually classical music.”

“I am sort of tone deaf,” I added, trying for some reason to assuage his anger.

“Tone deafness has nothing to do with it,” he said. “You missed a whole passage.”

I tried to ask if he was a musician, but just then my voice was drowned out by someone in the tunnel who started to play an Andean panpipe really loudly.

“I am sorry,” I said apologetically to the man before continuing on. “But I really have to get to my dentist.”

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— Bronek Pytowski

Illustrated by Agnes Lee. Send submissions here and read more Metropolitan Diary here.


Glad we could get together here. James Barron will be back tomorrow.

P.S. Here’s today’s Mini Crossword and Spelling Bee. You can find all our puzzles here.

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Two Men Face Terrorism Charges in Bomb Attack at Gracie Mansion

Federal prosecutors charged two men with attempting to support the Islamic State after they attempted to set off homemade explosives at Gracie Mansion on Saturday. The bombs did not detonate and no one was injured.

“Federal charges have been filed in the Southern District of New York against two individuals: Emir Balat and Ibrahim Kayumi. The defendants were inspired by ISIS to carry out their attack.” “Get him, get him, get him.” Preliminary testing has determined that one of the devices contained triacetone triperoxide — highly volatile explosive that has been used in multiple terrorist attacks over the last decade.” “Many of the counterprotesters met this display of bigotry peacefully, with a vision of a city that is welcoming to all. But a few did not. Two men, Emir Balat and Ibrahim Kayumi, traveled from Pennsylvania and attempted to bring violence to New York City. While I found this protest appalling, I will not waver in my belief that it should be allowed to happen. Ours is a free society where the right to peaceful protest is sacred.”

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Federal prosecutors charged two men with attempting to support the Islamic State after they attempted to set off homemade explosives at Gracie Mansion on Saturday. The bombs did not detonate and no one was injured.

By Christina Kelso

March 9, 2026

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How a Choreographer Lives on $55,000 in Kensington, Brooklyn

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How can people possibly afford to live in one of the most expensive cities on the planet? It’s a question New Yorkers hear a lot, often delivered with a mix of awe, pity and confusion.

We surveyed hundreds of New Yorkers about how they spend, splurge and save. We found that many people — rich, poor or somewhere in between — live life as a series of small calculations that add up to one big question: What makes living in New York worth it?

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It is a perennial question: Can artists still afford to live in New York? For Carrie Ahern, a choreographer and dancer who has lived and worked in the city for 30 years, the answer is yes — but it takes a couple of day jobs, a friendly landlord and a willingness sometimes to tell friends, “I can’t tonight, I’m too broke.”

Ms. Ahern moved to New York from Wisconsin in 1995, at age 19, with a dream to become a professional dancer. She had the drive and some contacts. But just as important, she had a nose for cheap real estate. She scored an apartment in Park Slope, Brooklyn, for $850 a month, split with a roommate. Supporting herself through a series of waitress jobs, she began pursuing her dream.

Now 50, Ms. Ahern runs her own nonprofit dance company, staging performances in private homes or unusual spaces, including a butcher shop, where she butchered a lamb as part of the show, then sold the meat at the end.

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“I kept expanding that dream,” she said of her years in New York. The city, in turn, “continued to let me bring out some skills that I didn’t even know I had.”

Those skills include creativity, resourcefulness and agility — in finance as well as dance.

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A Landlord to Cook and Garden With

The dance company pays Ms. Ahern a stipend of $4,800 a year, which she augments by teaching Pilates and movement therapy — sometimes in clients’ homes, sometimes in a rental studio, for which she pays $30 an hour.

A third income stream comes from a family company that manufactures industrial parts, which she has helped run since her father’s death in 2018. Her income from those three sources came to about $55,000 last year — about 10 percent higher than usual.

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The key to making it work, she said, is her apartment, one floor of a townhouse in the Kensington section of Flatbush, Brooklyn. After 16 years there, her rent is $1,350 a month, about half the median asking price for the neighborhood, according to StreetEasy.

“It’s like a cooperative in a lot of ways,” she said. “My landlord and I are very close, and we help each other out. We cook for each other. Or she was really excited that I love to garden, because she wanted help out there. So she keeps my rent low because she likes that I’m here and that we help each other out.”

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Special Expenses for a Dancer

Because Ms. Ahern’s apartment doubles as her office, she writes off part of the rent and utility bills as business expenses. She also deducts books, tickets to performances and any other expenses related to her work — including fitness and dance clothes, hair and makeup for performances, studio rentals and her Spotify subscription. It helps, she said, to have an accountant who works extensively with performing artists, and who had been one herself.

Those expenses bring Ms. Ahern’s income below $21,600, the threshold for Medicaid eligibility, which spares her from having to pay for health insurance. “It’s actually been the best insurance I’ve ever had,” she said. “You know, there’s no co-pay.”

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Making soup at home. Ms. Ahern says she’s able to be honest with her friends about when she can afford to splurge on dinners out. Bess Adler for The New York Times

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She does, however, still have to pay for routine maintenance on her 50-year-old dancer’s body.

She pays $120 for weekly sessions with a personal trainer, plus $115 for monthly acupuncture treatments and another $160 for monthly massage therapy appointments. “Almost all these people slide their scale for me, because of my career,” she said.

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Ms. Ahern gets free tickets to a lot of performances because she knows the people involved. Yet a free ticket can turn into an expensive night out if she isn’t careful. “Like, if someone says, ‘Oh, do you want to meet for dinner before?’” she said. “I feel like we’re good about being honest with each other, like, ‘I’m just really broke right now, and I can’t do it.’”

For meals at home, she uses the app Too Good to Go, where restaurants or stores offer deep discounts on food that would otherwise be thrown away — a new spin, she said, on dumpster diving. “This is a more refined version of that,” she said.

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She does, however, find her way to occasional splurges. If she cannot afford to treat friends to dinner, she treats them to coffee. And she splurged recently on tickets to see LCD Soundsystem at Knockdown Center in Queens and Nick Cave and the Bad Seeds at Barclays Center in Brooklyn. For the latter, she waited until a few days before the concert, then looked on the ticket resale site StubHub for people trying to unload their passes. Bingo: $70 for a quality seat.

For all its financial challenges, she said, New York still offers artists chances to grow. A few years ago, for example, she needed a change, so she took a class in new way vogue, a dance style known for its sharp geometric lines and precision, and it introduced her to a different community with new energy.

“There’s all these little niches here,” she said. “So in another city, could I make the work that I make? Yeah, probably. But I don’t know if it would feed me in the same way.”

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How a Parks Worker Lives on $37,500 in Tompkinsville, Staten Island

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How a Parks Worker Lives on ,500 in Tompkinsville, Staten Island

How can people possibly afford to live in one of the most expensive cities on the planet? It’s a question New Yorkers hear a lot, often delivered with a mix of awe, pity and confusion.

We surveyed hundreds of New Yorkers about how they spend, splurge and save. We found that many people — rich, poor or somewhere in between — live life as a series of small calculations that add up to one big question: What makes living in New York worth it?

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Sara Robinson boarded a Greyhound bus from Oregon to New York City to attend Hunter College in the early 2000s, bright-eyed and eager to pick up odd jobs to fuel her dream of living there.

For a long time, she made it work. But recently, that has been more challenging than ever.

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Right around her 40th birthday, Ms. Robinson began to feel financially squeezed in Brooklyn, where she had lived for years. Ms. Robinson (no relation to this reporter) was also feeling too grown to live with roommates.

“As a child,” she said, “you don’t think you’re going to have a roommate at 40.” She decided to move into a place of her own: a one-bedroom apartment in the Tompkinsville neighborhood of Staten Island.

After she moved, the preschool where she’d worked for over a decade closed. Now, she works two jobs. She is a seasonal employee for the state Office of Parks, Recreation and Historic Preservation, working from Tuesday to Saturday. And on Monday nights, she sells concessions at the West Village movie theater Film Forum, which pays $25 an hour plus tips.

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Ms. Robinson, now 45, loves her job as an environmental educator at a state park on Staten Island. Her team runs the park’s social media accounts and comes up with event programming, like a recent project tapping maple trees to make syrup.

But the role is temporary. Her last stint was from June 2024 to January 2025. Then she was unemployed until August 2025. Ms. Robinson’s current contract will be up in April, unless she gets an extension or a different parks job opens up.

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Ms. Robinson’s biweekly pay stubs from the parks department amount to about $1,300 before taxes. She barely felt a difference, she said, while she was out of work and pocketing around $880 every two weeks from her unemployment checks. (Her previous parks gig paid $1,100 a check.)

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“It used to be, ‘There’s no way I’m moving to Staten Island,’” Ms. Robinson said. “But the place is close to the water. I’m three minutes from the ferry. The rest is history.” She lives on the third floor of a multifamily house, above an art studio and another tenant. Her rent is $1,600 a month, plus $125 in utilities, including her phone bill.

“If my situation changes, I don’t know if I could find something similar,” she said. “So much of my New York life has been feeling trapped to an apartment. You get a place for a good price, and you’re like, ‘I can’t leave now.’”

Staten Island is convenient for Ms. Robinson’s parks job, but it’s become harder to justify living in a borough where she knows few people. It takes more than an hour to get to friends in Brooklyn, an especially hard trek during the winter. After four years of living on Staten Island, Ms. Robinson feels somewhat isolated.

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“All my friends on Staten Island are senior citizens,” she said. “It’s great. I love it. But I do want friends closer to my age.”

One of Ms. Robinson’s friends, Ray, took her on nature walks and taught her about tree identification, sparking an interest in mycology, the study of mushrooms. This led to a productive — and free — fungi foraging hobby during unemployment. She has found all sorts of mushrooms, including, after a month of searching, the elusive morel.

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The Budgeting Game

Ms. Robinson doesn’t update her furniture often, but when she does, she shops stoop sales in Park Slope or other parts of Brooklyn.

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“It’s like a treasure hunt,” she said. “You could make a whole apartment off the street, off the stuff that people throw away.”

She also makes a game out of grocery shopping, biking to Sunset Park in Brooklyn or Manhattan’s Chinatown to go to stores where there are better deals. She budgets about $300 for groceries each month.

Ms. Robinson bikes almost everywhere, sometimes traveling a little farther to enter the Staten Island Railway at one of the stations that don’t charge a fare. She spends $80 a month on subway and ferry fares, and $5 a month for a discounted Citi Bike membership she gets through a credit union, though she usually uses her own bike. She is handy and does repairs herself.

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There are certain splurges — Ms. Robinson drops $400 once or twice a year on round-trip airfare to Seattle, where her family lives. She also spent $100 last year to see a concert at Forest Hills Stadium in Queens.

She said she has many financial saving graces. She has no student loans and no car to make payments on. She doesn’t get health insurance from her jobs, but she qualifies for Medicaid.

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She mostly eats at home, though sometimes friends will treat her to dinner. She repays them with tickets to Film Forum movies.

Nothing Beats the Twinkling Lights

Ms. Robinson’s friends often talk about leaving the city — and the country.

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Two friends have their eyes set on Sweden, where they hope to get the affordable child care and social safety net they are struggling to access in New York.

Ms. Robinson can’t see herself moving elsewhere in the United States, but she is entertaining the idea of an international move if she can’t hack it on Staten Island.

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Yet the pull of the city is hard for her to resist.

“I just get a rush when I’m riding the Staten Island Ferry across the bay,” she said. “You see all the little twinkling lights. It’s this feeling of, ‘everything is possible here.’”

That feeling, plus the many friendly faces Ms. Robinson sees every day — the ferry operators, the conductors on the Staten Island Railway, her co-workers at Film Forum — are what tie her to New York.

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“My savings are not increasing, so there’s that,” she said. “But I’ve been OK so far. I think I’m going to figure it out.”

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